Literally every third family in our country knows firsthand how terrible alcohol can be when a close and dear husband becomes addicted. Thousands of women are figuring out how to make their husbands stop drinking, especially when one is unaware of the problem and is not trying to fight the disease itself. Let’s talk about techniques you can use to get a chance to save yourself and your partner from alcohol addiction.
What is Alcoholism?
There is an opinion that alcoholism can be cured with simple voluntary decisions, and if a person is a drinker, then he or she does not want to change anything. First of all, we will challenge this theory, because alcoholism is the most obvious disease. Addiction can be characterized as physical and psychological.
From a physiological point of view, the body is exposed to toxic substances, as a result of which metabolism is disrupted and all internal organs suffer. Destroys the brain, and thus the central nervous system. An alcoholic suffers from poor health in between drinking alcohol, does not understand reality adequately, suffers from memory loss.
From a psychological point of view, the "swamp" of alcohol is no less dangerous - the alcoholic who drinks every day is accustomed to the state of carelessness and euphoria that he feels at the moment of taking ethanol, his sense of responsibility is extinguished. Often, addicted people lose face and moral character, after which the people around them turn away from them. Many drunks cannot be cured or saved - feces, the same alcohol drinkers and death in the future.
Obviously, no man is willing to see his life become a nightmare. So, alcoholism is a disease! If your husband is an alcoholic and you love him, be patient and help him overcome the disease.
The inner strength to quit alcohol
Let’s go back to the theory that any alcoholic, freely and without help, can stop drinking forever, because this is only the will and strength of character needed. That statement is only partially true, in cases where the addiction is exclusively psychological and has not yet triggered physiological changes in the body.
It is possible to wean the husband from alcohol and drunkenness at home only when alcohol consumption does not turn into an uncontrolled and systematic party, without which one feels bad, and he is willing to sell his soul for liquor. If alcohol has turned into a physical attachment, people, as a rule, do not want to fight it. Alcohol restores them a sense of euphoria and moral satisfaction, extinguishes poor health and falsely normalizes blood pressure, heart rate and mental clarity. As soon as ethanol begins to be removed from the body, the discomfort returns, and the drunkard once again reaches for the cherished fluids and drinks the alcohol. In such cases, in order for a person to stop drinking, expert intervention is necessary.
So, can an alcoholic stop drinking on his own?
No, if the drink takes the form of alcoholism, and does not consist of regular and frequent home consumption of alcohol.
What psychological help can be effective
If you decide to save your husband from getting drunk, first of all think about what drives him to get drunk. As a rule, only those who are involved in the party are very dissatisfied and experience their fears and problems silently, inside. To convince your husband to stop drinking in the future, you need to understand the root cause of the problem and try to eradicate it:
- Try to devote more time to the person you love and don’t hide how much he or she means to you. Do activities together and think about what your husband was addicted to before the addiction.
- Don’t blame your husband, don’t blackmail, don’t threaten or yell - you will only achieve the opposite effect and the person will become more closed in on him. Don’t think about how to teach your husband a lesson about drunkenness, but think about how to help your partner.
- Try a heart -to -heart conversation and tell how happy you would be if your partner chose a healthy lifestyle again.
Someone who feels important and useful is more likely to quit alcohol.
If we talk about the need for professional help, to begin with, you still need to figure out how to persuade your husband to stop drinking, because it is almost impossible to force someone to change without his consent. In rare cases, the alcoholic himself agrees to the treatment, as this means that the disease is clear and completely dominated by the drunkard. Your success will be more real if you are patient and keep kind words and support for your husband.
Let's say you convince your husband to seek professional help. Let's talk about what methods are considered effective and practiced in the fight against alcoholism.
Hypnotherapy
Surely everyone has heard of the coding of alcohol using hypnosis. The essence of the procedure is to introduce the person dependent on the trance state and subsequently recommend a specific program. With the help of real hypnosis, an experienced and qualified doctor can do many things: get rid of fear and insecurity, suppress depression, get to the bottom of the root causes of alcoholism.
If you have chosen hypnotherapy, make sure you find a good and qualified specialist who has earned a name in the field. Remember that among doctors there are also scammers who will not only help, but can also harm your husband.
Read more about this direction in the article "Coding with hypnosis than alcoholism. "
Consider the most effective and popular hypnosis techniques:
- Autogenic training.
- Hypnosuggestion therapy.
- Anchor method.
Each of them deserves attention and is known for its effectiveness.
Autogenic training
This type of training is based on the process of self -hypnosis, because in every personality there is a great and strong energy potential. This method implies minimal intervention of a psychotherapist - doctors only teach alcohol the basics of self -hypnosis. Its job is to give encouragement and direct the patient’s thinking in the right direction.
After learning the basic techniques, the outcome of the treatment depends entirely on the alcohol itself and his desire to recover. Autogenic interventions are only productive in the early stages of alcohol addiction, or after more serious psychological and medical help has been provided.
Hypnosuggestion therapy
The next technique is based on a treatment carried out during hypnotic trance or called sleep under hypnosis. In this case, it is very important that alcoholics are aware of the problem, sincerely want to get rid of it and trust the experts.
This session covers several stages.
- First of all, it is important to establish a relationship of trust between an alcoholic and an expert, because to enter trance, one must be relaxed and can not fight.
- After a regular conversation, the specialist uses psychological techniques aimed at spreading the patient’s attention. At the same time, it’s important to keep the conversation going. One or two techniques are enough to put someone to sleep.
- After alcohol gets into a trance state, doctors begin implementing specific programs aimed at stopping alcohol.
The effectiveness of this method is individual and depends on the professionalism of the doctor and the level of predictability of the patient. Some relatives of alcoholics state that the effects begin to manifest after the first session, when others require a course that includes 3-6 visits.
Anchor method
This technique is different because one does not have to be immersed in hypnotic sleep.
The therapist’s goal is to find and program the alcohol drinker’s awareness for specific "cause-and-effect" subconscious actions. Briefly, we can give a simple example: an anchor is programmed for a word or memory, when a "collision" in which an alcoholic experiences a certain emotion. Positive sensations prompt the patient to perform certain actions, negative anchors cause negative sensations and play the role of a kind of stop signal.
The anchor method is effective in combination with drug treatment and only when alcohol interacts and trusts the specialist.
Group psychotherapy
Another way to prevent a husband from drinking alcohol is to send him to a group psychotherapy session, known worldwide as the Alcoholism Anonymous Association.
The principle of operation of such a group is simple - a class in a group of patients with one disease shows the alcoholic that he is not alone and there are many people who suffer from the same problem. "If they cope, then I can too, " the addict thought and the ice began to move. Alcohol drinkers communicate with each other, share experiences and problems, support each other. Being in such a society is beneficial for introspection and maintaining self -esteem.
Therapists use play techniques to help alcoholics feel part of the team, which is also an important part of recovery.
The course of psychotherapy lasts several years, the optimal number of people in a group is from 5 to 10. The method is long, but very effective.
Family therapy
Family groups are considered no less effective, whose purpose is to escape from intoxication with the help of care and attention, as well as to teach the wives of drinking husbands to support and understand their soul mates.
The families of the addicted person along with the alcoholic gather in small groups and spend time together, which is very valuable in a period when a person has just completed a course of drug treatment and it is very difficult for him to "recover" himself in society. Initially, therapy is accompanied by the constant presence of specialists who teach wives to support and re -respect their husbands, as well as practicing a variety of exercises aimed at reducing anxiety. It is important to clearly remember the advice of a psychologist and show understanding. Another advantage of this method is interaction with other families who have similar problems: both the alcoholic husband and his wife see that they are not alone in their gaps, feel their belonging in society, become more relaxed, purposeful and friendly.
All the techniques we have listed are related to psychological help, but often therapy is not able to completely eliminate the problem of alcohol and is practiced exclusively in combination with medications.
Drug treatment for alcoholism
Let's talk about how to deal with her husband's intoxication, if he does not want and is not ready to voluntarily turn to "brainwashing".
Often the wives of alcoholics complain that their husbands who drink alcohol absolutely do not want to be treated and do not think that he is ill at all. In such cases, there is no question of professional psychological help, because although it is possible to agree with the alcoholic husband to go to psychotherapy, he will do it as an aid and will not strengthen the efforts of experts with feedback and a desire to recover.
The solution to such a situation is to take medications and inpatient treatment.
Let us consider the common methods of such treatment in more detail:
- Encoding. The coding principle is to embed in alcohol the information that drinking alcohol will lead to poor health and even death. For this, injections, tablets and alcohol blockers are used, as well as electrical impulse therapy. This method is effective at any, even the most severe levels of alcoholism. Wives have new levers - they try to scare husbands, constantly reminding them that ethanol will lead to torture and death. Some even try to cure their husbands of alcohol addiction without his knowledge by adding drugs to food. This is categorically not possible, as allergic reactions are possible. For more information, see the article "Coding for Alcoholism".
- Vitamin therapy. The fact is that during the feast, the body suffers from intoxication, loss of useful substances and enzymes. If you give the body what it needs again, the pain of stopping drinking alcohol will weaken, and the person will have new strength to fight addiction. Medicines offered to alcoholics contain large amounts of vitamins B1, B2, B6, B12, C, PP - they have a tonic effect and improve the well -being of alcohol.
- Acupuncture is another effective treatment for alcoholism. After diagnosing the stage of the disease, the specialist acts on various points of the body with acupuncture needles. Thus, the process of cleansing the body is activated, psychological dependence becomes weakened. Detailed information is presented in the article "Acupuncture for alcoholism".
- Plasmapheresis is an apparatus therapy that acts by clearing the blood plasma. Blood is passed through a special filter and returned to the body of the alcohol drinker. This method is not so much in demand, because many are afraid to fight the disease radically.
All these methods are suitable for mandatory treatment, which is agreed and planned without the knowledge of the husband. It is important that alcoholics are constantly monitored by specialists and treatment is carried out exclusively by professionals.
Alternative treatment of alcoholism with non -traditional methods
It is important to mention the fight against alcohol with folk remedies. This includes all kinds of tinctures and decoctions of various plants. Here are some of them:
- Centaury
- Root Lovage.
- Lavrushka.
- Apple.
- Love.
- Chipped roots.
- Soda.
- Plants with emetic effect.
Also popular are folk remedies such as extracts and infusions of worms and insects.
Psychological advice and literature to help combat alcoholism
If your husband realizes that he is an alcoholic and is willing to work hard to fight it, the battle can be considered a win. Physicians and psychologists offer books to alcoholics that help them fight any addiction, among which alcoholism is in the first place.
There are also a large number of private offices that you can contact for help from professionals.
We saw what needed to be done to make the husband stop drinking. The prognosis of recovery depends not only on the individual characteristics of the alcoholic body and its desire to recover, but also on your support and participation. Never try to teach your husband a lesson to get drunk with rudeness and anger, as this will have the opposite effect and your drunkard will only make sure that he is not loved and understood.
How to make your husband stop drinking alcohol? Admit that he is ill, convince your husband of this and prove to him that you do not care about his fate.